As a mom, my instinct is to tell my daughter how beautiful she is, I always want to (and often do) say things like “Mommy’s gorgeous girl” and “love you, my pretty girl”.
But then I read articles and blogs about how we need to limit these words as they can give the impression that outer beauty is most important and make our daughters over concerned about their looks and what others think of them, and feed the culture of “you have to be pretty to be popular”.
But then I read blog posts like 50 rules for dads of daughters where number 18 says “Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or ‘beauty’ magazine will try to convince her otherwise.” and my heart says “yes”. Obviously I make sure to also praise her skills, her caring nature, her cute personality and so on, but I want her to know that she is gorgeous just the way she is, and doesn’t have to fit the ideals of the outside world.
So where’s the happy medium? Perhaps the perspective of this mom, in “I Won’t Stop Telling My Daughter She’s Beautiful“.
Oh, and I’m not sure “paradox” is the correct grammatical term, but it’s my blog and I’ll be grammatically uncertain if I want to, just like Alanis.
PS As a new blogger, I’m also trying to decide how much of my family, myself and especially my child I want to reveal. So this is my actual daughter in the photo, but I don’t think I’ll be showing her physical beauty in the near future.