Category: Parenting at the tip

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On Safari, from the tip, with kids…

I’m very happy to share with you Living at the Tip’s first guest post. Bryan Milne shares his experiences on safari with young children.

There are many upsides to living at the tip of Africa, but it does leave you a rather long way from a typical Safari destination such as the Kruger National Park or the many parks in our northern neighbours. We can’t just pop down to Kruger for the weekend as easily as our Jozi brothers and sisters can; for us to get to the “bush” takes some careful planning to make it worthwhile. BC (Before Children) G and I used to travel whenever we could and one of our favourite breaks was to fly to Joburg, rent a car and drive from there to Mpumalanga. We would stay with family and spend wonderful time with them and in Kruger and surrounds.

The arrival of our sons M1 and then M2 put a solid stop to that. Until recently, that is, when a win of the General Tyres SA #AnyWhereIsPossible competition put us literally back on the road again. This entry was chosen as the winner and we were awarded a lump sum to be used on a holiday – yay for competitions!

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The paradox of “Tell her she’s beautiful”

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As a mom, my instinct is to tell my daughter how beautiful she is, I always want to (and often do) say things like “Mommy’s gorgeous girl” and “love you, my pretty girl”.

But then I read articles and blogs about how we need to limit these words as they can give the impression that outer beauty is most important and make our daughters over concerned about their looks and what others think of them, and feed the culture of “you have to be pretty to be popular”.

But then I read blog posts like 50 rules for dads of daughters where number 18 says “Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or ‘beauty’ magazine will try to convince her otherwise.” and my heart says “yes”. Obviously I make sure to also praise her skills, her caring nature, her cute personality and so on, but I want her to know that she is gorgeous just the way she is, and doesn’t have to fit the ideals of the outside world.

So where’s the happy medium? Perhaps the perspective of this mom, in “I Won’t Stop Telling My Daughter She’s Beautiful“.

Oh, and I’m not sure “paradox” is the correct grammatical term, but it’s my blog and I’ll be grammatically uncertain if I want to, just like Alanis.

PS As a new blogger, I’m also trying to decide how much of my family, myself and especially my child I want to reveal. So this is my actual daughter in the photo, but I don’t think I’ll be showing her physical beauty in the near future.

Thumbs up – www.babygroup.co.za

Last week I decided to buy a toddler clock  – Gro Clock, I’ll review the product once we’ve had more time with it.

It’s for sale on Amazon, but I thought I’d look to see if it’s available locally. A site-that-shall-not-be-named-but-sells-lots-of-imported-products had it for a totally ludicrous-what-are-you-smoking price, and then I found it on a site I hadn’t heard of before, www.babygroup.co.za for only a small amount more than Amazon. Since Babygroup promised 2-3 day free delivery I thought it was worth the extra, and so glad I did.

The clock arrived by courier that same afternoon! Very impressed! Included a handwritten note welcoming me as a new customer and saying they’ve heard great things about Gro Clock and hope it works for us.

A few days later the impressiveness continued with a phone call from James of Babygroup – who I later found out is co-founder and MD – asking if everything was satisfactory, and saying I must let them know if I need anything else that isn’t available locally. I mentioned that I hadn’t heard of Babygroup before and James said they’d been open 3 months.

I’d say they’re off to a great start – in terms of service giving my favourite SA e-tailers, Yuppiechef, a run for their money.

I think (or hope) that we’ve bought most of what’s needed for a baby/toddler by now, but if we do need something else, Babygroup will definitely be first on my list of sites to check, or enquire if it’s an import.